>> Saturday, April 10, 2010
They were talking politics, and I heard him tell her, "I think it's good for parents to give their children something to believe. They can always change their minds later."
And I thought, what about teaching your kids how to think, not what to think?
I don't need my kids to grow up agreeing with me -- I want them growing up knowing how to think. To form their own ideas, to question pat answers, to want to know the why's behind the what's and how's.
This is what I want for my kids:
For them to learn that everyone has ideas. That we will like some people's ideas better than others. And that even if we don't like someone's ideas, that we can still like them, still respect them as a person.
For them to question good guys and bad guys. To accept that if we try hard enough, if we approach people with open minds and ears, that we can find common ground somewhere.
That we should listen, rather than wait to speak. That we must always be open to changing our minds when presented with new information. That there's no shame in recognizing we were wrong.
I don't want to give my kids something to believe. I want to support them in their process of discovering what they believe.
(And I want to follow my own advice.)
Do you think about this stuff too?